Questions and CORRECT Answers
what made people struggle with finding love? - CORRECT ANSWER - couldn't meet
basic physiological needs first like food
need physiological needs and safety met before love
spouses were originally seen as... - CORRECT ANSWER - workmates
children were seen as assets
how many children did women have before BC? - CORRECT ANSWER - ~10, only 7
survived past one year
what historical event in the late 1700s and early 1800s happened to make people more likely to
marry for love? - CORRECT ANSWER - industrial revolution
how did men and women rank marrying for love in the 1930s? - CORRECT ANSWER -
women #3
men #7
still not the number one priority for marriage (love)
what happened in the 1960s that altered the way couples feel about marriage and family? -
CORRECT ANSWER - birth control and contraceptives
marriage trends over the last 30 years - CORRECT ANSWER - going down, fewer people
are getting married
BUT Utah has the highest marriage rate
divorce rates over the last 30 years - CORRECT ANSWER - staying the same, slightly
downward
,peaked in the late 1980s
childbearing/fertility trends - CORRECT ANSWER - fewer children
later marriage, divorce, pursuing education or career
cohabitation trends - CORRECT ANSWER - becoming more common since the early
1990s
main benefits of marriage - CORRECT ANSWER - happier, healthier, wealthier
two sets of beliefs a child learns from interacting with their parents - CORRECT
ANSWER - will others be there when I need them?
am I worthy of love?
secure attachment style: what does the parent do? - CORRECT ANSWER - responds
appropriately, promptly and consistently to child's needs
securely attached individuals are... - CORRECT ANSWER - OK with closeness, trust
partners with distance, not fearful of being abandoned by loved ones, easy to get close to others
securely attached individuals grow up to be... - CORRECT ANSWER - regulate their own
emotions, more empathetic, more self-control, more cooperative with other children, less
aggressive, less depression
insecure avoidant attachment style: what does the parent do? - CORRECT ANSWER -
little to no response to child in distress, discourages crying, encourages independence, children
think no one will be there for them
insecure avoidant individuals are... - CORRECT ANSWER - uncomfortable with too much
closeness, hard time asking for emotional needs to be met, more private, hard time opening up or
asking for help, may prefer partner that does not demand much from them
, insecure anxious attachment style: what do the parents do? - CORRECT ANSWER -
inconsistent between appropriate and neglectful responses to child, child can't count on them
because they're not always there when they need them
insecure anxious individuals are... - CORRECT ANSWER - feel insecure in relationships,
constant fear that their partner doesn't love them, worries about being abandoned or rejected,
clingy, frustrated over lack of closeness, seeks love while simultaneously rebuffing it, seek high
levels of intimacy, responsiveness, and approval from partner
how to adjust negative attachment - CORRECT ANSWER - make connections with
securely attached individuals
become more aware of your emotional response and what trigger them
call yourself out
reach out to other person, make them feel loved
incorporate healthy soothing techniques
family hero (the responsible one) - CORRECT ANSWER - perfectionist, does everything
right, high achiever, the one the family can be proud of
hard time accepting failure, intellectualize feelings or disregard them
scapegoat (the rebel) - CORRECT ANSWER - comfortable with negative attention, refuse
to compete with the family hero, take blame for family problems, grow up fast, express anger
and hide sadness
rescuer/enabler (the peacemaker) - CORRECT ANSWER - want everyone to get along,
help conflict go away, feel responsible for everyone's emotional well-being, enables other's poor
behavior at expense of own desires or feelings, need to be needed
mascot (family clown) - CORRECT ANSWER - provide comic relief in stressful
situations, take focus off family with humor, likes attracting goof attention, less time at home,
denies feeling with humor