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Theories of Couples Development - ANScouples interactions follow a developmental model
stages
1. romance
2. power struggle
3. stability
4. commitment
5. co-creation
Theories of Couples Development:
Romance - ANS-stage one
-begins at introduction, common interests, learning about each other
- focus of this stage is attachment
-romantic bond is foundational and critical to health of relationship
-members in engage in symbiotic or mutualistic relationships
Theories of Couples Development:
power struggle - ANS-stage two
-realize that they arent the same person
defining one's self
-loss of romance from self expression
-differentiation
-acknowledge differences, learn to share power and accept partners w/o needing to change
them
,Theories of Couples Development:
stability - ANSstage three
becoming more independent within the relationship
focus on personal needs
autonomy and individuality
disagreements can occur w/o a party "winning"
power struggles are avoided
ultimate goal is intimacy that doesn't sacrifice separateness
Theories of Couples Development:
commitment - ANSstage 4
marriage is ideal
good outweighs the bad
realization that they want to be together
still need work to effectively function in next/last stage of couple-hood
Theories of Couples Development:
co-creation - ANSstage 5
constancy
partners are able to value and respect separateness of the other
respect and mutual growth
work on projects together
creating positive change that benefits other people
Acting out - ANSEmotional conflict is dealt with through actions rather than feelings
instead of talking about feeling neglected, acting out to get attention
,compensation - ANSenables one to make up for real or fancied deficiencies. (little man
syndrome)
conversion - ANSrepressed urge is expressed disguised as a disturbance of body function,
usually the sensory, voluntary nervous system
decompensation - ANSdeterioration of existing defenses
denial - ANSprimitive defense; inability to acknowledge true significance of thoughts, feelings,
events
devaluation - ANSDefense mechanism frequently used by individuals with borderline
personality organization in which a person attributes exaggerated negative qualities to self or
others. split of primitive idealization
dissociation - ANSa process that enables a person to split mental functions in a manner that
allows them to express forbidden or unconscious impulses w/o taking responsibility for the
action bc they dont remember it or bc they are not experienced as their own actions
displacement - ANSdirecting an impulse, wish or feeling toward a person or situation that is not
the real object
(mad at boss, kicks dog)
idealization - ANSoverestimation of an admired aspect or attribute of another
identification - ANSuniversal mechanism whereby a person patterns themself after a significant
other. plays a major role in personality development, especially superego
, identification with the aggressor - ANSmastering anxiety by identifying with a powerful
aggressor to counteract feelings of helplessness and to feel powerful oneself. (abusing others
after one has been abused themself)
Incorporation - ANSPrimitive mechanism in which psychic representation of a person (or parts
of a person) is/are figuratively ingested
inhibition - ANSloss of motivation to engage in activity avoided bc it might stir up conflict over
forbidden impulses
introjection - ANSloved or hated external objects are symbolically absorbed within self
(depressed, unconscious unacceptable hatred is turned toward self)
Intellectualization - ANSwhere a person avoids uncomfortable emotions by focusing on facts
and logic. Emotional aspects are completely ignored as being irrelevant.
isolation of affect - ANSUnacceptable impulse, idea, or act is separated from its original memory
source, thereby removing the original emotional charge associated with it.
projection - ANSprimitive defense; attributing ones disowned attitudes, wishes, feelings, urges
to some external object or person
projective identification - ANS— a form of projection utilized by persons with Borderline
Personality Disorder— unconsciously perceiving others' behavior as a reflection of one's own
identity.
rationalization - ANSthird line of defense, not unconscious. giving believable explanation for
irrational behavior, motivated by unacceptable unconscious wishes or by defenses used to cope
with such wishes