Escape responses - Answers suicide, flight, denial
peacemaking responses - Answers overlook, reconciliation, negotiation, mediation, arbitration,
accountability
attack responses - Answers assault, litigation, murder
Mediation, Arbitration, and Accountability - Answers What peacemaking responses involve a third
party?
assault - Answers conflict response: use forms of force or intimidation, violence, and efforts to
damage the other party; escalates the conflict
litigation - Answers conflict response: legal case/lawsuit
murder - Answers conflict response: kill those who oppose you
overlook - Answers conflict response: quietly and deliberately move on, a form of forgiveness
reconciliation - Answers conflict response: personal resolution through confession, loving correction,
and forgiveness
negotiation - Answers conflict response: working through the material issues to resolve a conflict
beyond reconciliation; cooperative bargaining
mediation - Answers conflict response: asking one or more objective outside parties to meet with
them and explore possible solutions, but do not have the authority to force the acceptance of a
solution
arbitration - Answers conflict response: one or more people listen to the arguments and render a
binding decision that both parties must accept
accountability - Answers conflict response: church leaders formally intervene to hold parties to
scripture and promote repentance, justice, and forgiveness
denial - Answers conflict response: pretend no problem exists
flight - Answers conflict response: run away from conflict; quit, leave, divorce, etc.
suicide - Answers conflict response: escaping the conflict by ending your own life
Competing, The Shark - Answers I win, you lose; high assertive, low cooperative; relationships take
low priority; breeds hostility and resentment; goal oriented
Accommodating, Teddy Bear - Answers I lose, you win; high cooperative, low assertive; maintains
relationships; ignores own goals; easily taken advantage of
Avoiding, the turtle - Answers I lose, you lose; low cooperative, low assertive; hide and ignore
conflict; overuse leads to being walked all over
compromising, the fox - Answers I win some, you win some; mid-cooperative and assertive; sacrifice
own goals and convince others to sacrifice some of theirs; relationships maintained and conflict
removed; often results in less than ideal outcome
collaborating, the owl - Answers I win, you win; high cooperative, high assertive; problem
confronting; finds solutions that are agreeable to all sides; takes a lot of time and effort
The Pawn - Answers Just humble; easily taken advantage of and walked all over
The bulldozer - Answers just hungry; get things done with little consideration of others
the charmer - Answers just smart; extremely manipulative
humble - Answers great team player, lack inflated ego, slow to seek attention or credit, the greatest
trait to have
hungry - Answers looking for more, seeking new opportunities, diligent, often are workaholics, strive
to do well and seek accomplishments
smart - Answers extremely emotionally intelligent, can read others and a room well, and know how
to respond accordingly
accidental mess maker - Answers humble, hungry
skillful politician - Answers hungry, smart
Loveable Slacker - Answers humble, smart
self awareness - Answers emotionally cognisant, accurate self-assessment, core beliefs and values are
known, self-confidence
self management - Answers stress management, self-control, drive to achieve, adaptability, optimism
relationship awareness - Answers empathy, organizationally aware, service orientation, understand
"political" currents
relationship management - Answers conflict, building instrumental bonds, developing potential in
others, influence/persuasion, catalyst for change