Questions & Answers
Core Competency of Thinking Traps - ANSWERSmental agility
Thinking Traps - ANSWERSAn MRT skill that identifies and corrects counterproductive patterns
in thinking through the use of mental cues and critical questions.
Thinking Traps - ANSWERSoverly rigid patterns in thinking that can cause us to miss critical
information about a situation or an individual
What are thinking traps? - ANSWERSpatterns in our THOUGHTS
Are thinking traps hard to change? - ANSWERSYes
Jumping to Conclusions - ANSWERSA thinking trap where you believe you are certain about a
situation despite having little or no evidence to support it.
What is the mother of all thinking traps? - ANSWERSJumping to Conclusions
Mind Reading - ANSWERSThe thinking trap where you are assuming that you know what
another person is thinking or expecting another person to know what you are thinking; blocks
communication; often found in close relationships
Me, Me, Me - ANSWERSThe thinking trap where you believe that you are the sole cause of
every problem you encounter; perfectionism; feeling of guilt and apologizing
,Them, Them, Them - ANSWERSThe thinking trap where you believe that the other people or
circumstances are the sole cause of every problem you encounter; victim mentality; blame
game
Always, Always, Always - ANSWERSThe thinking trap where you believe that negative events are
unchangeable and that you have little or no control over them; time (always going to be an
issue); leads to helplessness
Everything, Everything, Everything - ANSWERSThe thinking trap where you believe 1)you can
judge one's worth or character based on a single event (character assassination) 2) that what
caused the problem is going to negatively effect other areas of my life; scope=wide range of
impact; leads to helplessness
What are the two most toxic thinking traps? - ANSWERSAlways, Always, Always and Everything,
Everything, Everything
How do we avoid thinking traps? - ANSWERSMental Cues and Critical Questions
Jumping to Conclusions: Mental Cue and Critical Q - ANSWERSSlow down: What is the evidence
for and against my thoughts?
Mind Reading: Mental Cue and Critical Q - ANSWERSSpeak Up: Did I express myself? Did I ask
for information?
Me, Me, Me: Mental Cue and Critical Q - ANSWERSLook outward: How did others contribute?
Them, Them, Them: Mental Cue and Critical Q - ANSWERSLook inward: How did I contribute?
Always, Always, Always: Mental Cue and Critical Q - ANSWERSGrab control: What's changeable?
What can I control?
, Everything, Everything, Everything: Mental Cue and Critical Q - ANSWERSGet specific: what is
the specific behavior that explains the situation? What specific area of my life will be affected?
Thinking Traps are common - ANSWERSIt is common to fall into a Thinking Trap particularly
when stressed
Thinking Traps narrow our field of vision - ANSWERSThey often lead us to miss important
information
Notice patterns - ANSWERSWhat are the patterns in the Traps you fall into?
When do I use the skill of Thinking Traps? - ANSWERSWhen the perspective of the situation is
biased by your own Thinking Traps
Detect Icebergs - ANSWERSThe MRT skill allows us to identify and evaluate core beliefs and core
values that fuel out-of-proportion emotions and reactions.
When do you need to detect an iceberg? - ANSWERS1) Emotions or Reactions are out of
proportion to what you're thinking in the Heat of the Moment
2)Your emotion or reaction confuses you. There's a T-C disconnect
3) You notice strong thinking trap patterns
How to we identify an iceberg? - ANSWERSBy using "WHAT" questions
1) What is the most upsetting part of that for me?
2) What does that mean to me?
3) What is the worst part of that for me?