Introduction and Informed Consent
Value Systems
● Molestation is bad
○ Why? It’s trauma, it’s painful. Why is that bad?
○ We can argue that it is immoral, but that is only according to your own value
system. Those who molest others may not find this immoral according to their
own belief system.
● Alan Watts - we value consciousness as human beings but we do not value pain.
● People are motivated by fear
○ I do something because I am fearful of a certain outcome
Psychopathy is an exception to this rule, psychopaths do not have this fear. They act
because they still have their own motivations but those are not influenced by fear.
● FBI Threat Assessment Team
○ Who sets the standard? Predominantly white, educated, men of privilege.
○ Those who are in charge of setting the standard are still human beings who will
influence that standard with their own biases, consciously and unconsciously.
○ Certain groups may be more likely to be targeted based on the biases held by
those who set the standards.
○ The only way to change this is to change the team responsible for setting the
system.
● “A good person is a person who struggles to do good”
○ Not just a person who does good all the time
○ “Good” is subjective and only according to your own value system
○ If someone struggles to “do good” that means there is a level of awareness and a
feeling of responsibility.
Informed Consent
● Interviewing: Gathering information
○ There may be no real back and forth, just trying to get necessary information out
of someone.
● Coaching: Collaborative. Involves skill assessing and building.
○ Does not address external factors
○ You present me with a problem, I present you with a solution
○ Surface level, not getting to the root cause
● Counseling is a science and an art
● Psychotherapy
○ Psyche | Theros
○ Mind/Soul | To care for, to tend to
○ Psychotherapy is soul tending
● Interviewing, coaching, counseling, and psychotherapy are all valuable
● Psychological health
○ Trust and respect are necessary for a relationship
, ○ I don’t trust or respect my mother, therefore I do not have a relationship with my
mother
■ There is no relationship, there is a connection
■ Difference in value systems
● Resolving issues
○ What do you want?
○ What are the barriers?
○ How do we remove barriers?
● Relief vs. freedom
○ Relief is cutting off your button pushers fingers
○ Freedom is removing your buttons
● You may not be able to have a relationship with someone who opposes your value
system - breathe that in and accept it
● Every time you sell out your value system you betray yourself
Chiron - The Wounded Healer:
● A teacher and a centaur
● Such a good healer that all the best Gods were sent to learn from him
● Chiron had been wounded after being shot with arrows dipped in Medusa’s poison and
was covered in wounds and scars
● Zeus, after sending Apollo, was so grateful to Chiron that he wanted to thank him by
healing his wounds
● Chiron declined, saying that his wounds were what made him valuable
● Everyone has wounds and can help others with their own
● Sometimes in order to heal a wound you need to heal the strengths around it
● The wounded healer recognizes their wounds and recognizes there is gold in these
wounds
● Your darkest moments can becomes your greatest assets
Media recommendations
● Ordinary People
● Ted Lasso
○ Good Will Hunting
The Art of Interviewing and Counseling
Chapter 1
● Vocation: from the Latin vocacio, “summons”
○ Your vocation is your calling
● Awareness is different than skill
○ Someone may be aware of an issue but not yet have the skills to deal with it. We
need to skill-build in order to address the client's needs.
● A big part of this profession is helping build self-esteem
● Teach clients to use the skills they already have
Value Systems
● Molestation is bad
○ Why? It’s trauma, it’s painful. Why is that bad?
○ We can argue that it is immoral, but that is only according to your own value
system. Those who molest others may not find this immoral according to their
own belief system.
● Alan Watts - we value consciousness as human beings but we do not value pain.
● People are motivated by fear
○ I do something because I am fearful of a certain outcome
Psychopathy is an exception to this rule, psychopaths do not have this fear. They act
because they still have their own motivations but those are not influenced by fear.
● FBI Threat Assessment Team
○ Who sets the standard? Predominantly white, educated, men of privilege.
○ Those who are in charge of setting the standard are still human beings who will
influence that standard with their own biases, consciously and unconsciously.
○ Certain groups may be more likely to be targeted based on the biases held by
those who set the standards.
○ The only way to change this is to change the team responsible for setting the
system.
● “A good person is a person who struggles to do good”
○ Not just a person who does good all the time
○ “Good” is subjective and only according to your own value system
○ If someone struggles to “do good” that means there is a level of awareness and a
feeling of responsibility.
Informed Consent
● Interviewing: Gathering information
○ There may be no real back and forth, just trying to get necessary information out
of someone.
● Coaching: Collaborative. Involves skill assessing and building.
○ Does not address external factors
○ You present me with a problem, I present you with a solution
○ Surface level, not getting to the root cause
● Counseling is a science and an art
● Psychotherapy
○ Psyche | Theros
○ Mind/Soul | To care for, to tend to
○ Psychotherapy is soul tending
● Interviewing, coaching, counseling, and psychotherapy are all valuable
● Psychological health
○ Trust and respect are necessary for a relationship
, ○ I don’t trust or respect my mother, therefore I do not have a relationship with my
mother
■ There is no relationship, there is a connection
■ Difference in value systems
● Resolving issues
○ What do you want?
○ What are the barriers?
○ How do we remove barriers?
● Relief vs. freedom
○ Relief is cutting off your button pushers fingers
○ Freedom is removing your buttons
● You may not be able to have a relationship with someone who opposes your value
system - breathe that in and accept it
● Every time you sell out your value system you betray yourself
Chiron - The Wounded Healer:
● A teacher and a centaur
● Such a good healer that all the best Gods were sent to learn from him
● Chiron had been wounded after being shot with arrows dipped in Medusa’s poison and
was covered in wounds and scars
● Zeus, after sending Apollo, was so grateful to Chiron that he wanted to thank him by
healing his wounds
● Chiron declined, saying that his wounds were what made him valuable
● Everyone has wounds and can help others with their own
● Sometimes in order to heal a wound you need to heal the strengths around it
● The wounded healer recognizes their wounds and recognizes there is gold in these
wounds
● Your darkest moments can becomes your greatest assets
Media recommendations
● Ordinary People
● Ted Lasso
○ Good Will Hunting
The Art of Interviewing and Counseling
Chapter 1
● Vocation: from the Latin vocacio, “summons”
○ Your vocation is your calling
● Awareness is different than skill
○ Someone may be aware of an issue but not yet have the skills to deal with it. We
need to skill-build in order to address the client's needs.
● A big part of this profession is helping build self-esteem
● Teach clients to use the skills they already have
