DBT Skills Training. Interpersonal
effectiveness skills
Factors in the way of interpersonal skills - answer you don't know what you need, your
emotions are getting in the way, you forget your long term goals for short term goals,
other people are getting in your way, your thoughts and beliefs are getting in the way
Objectives effectiveness: Getting what you want from another person - answer obtaining
your legitimate rights,
getting another person to do something you want to do,
saying no to an unwanted or unreasonable request, getting your opinion or point of view
taken seriously
Objectives effectiveness: Getting what you want from another person questions -
answer-What specific results or changes do I want from this interaction?
- What do I have to do to get the results? what will work?
Relationship effectiveness: keeping and improving the relationship - answerActing in
such a way that the other person keeps liking and respecting you,
balancing immediate goals with the good of the long-term relationship,
maintaining relationships that matter to you
Relationship Effectiveness: keeping and improving the relationship questions - answer-
how do I want the other person to feel about me after the interaction is over (whether or
not I get the results or changes I want?)
-what do I have to do to get (or keep) this relationship?
Self-respect effectiveness: keeping or improving self-respect - answerrespecting your
own values and beliefs,
acting in a way that makes you feel moral,
acting in a way that makes you feel capable and effective
Self-respect effectiveness: keeping or improving self-respect questions - answer-How
do I want to feel about myself after the interaction is over (whether or not I get the
results or changes I want)?
-What do I have to do to feel that way about myself? what will work?
Guidelines for objective effectiveness: getting what you want (DEAR MAN) - answerD-
describe
E-express
A-assert
effectiveness skills
Factors in the way of interpersonal skills - answer you don't know what you need, your
emotions are getting in the way, you forget your long term goals for short term goals,
other people are getting in your way, your thoughts and beliefs are getting in the way
Objectives effectiveness: Getting what you want from another person - answer obtaining
your legitimate rights,
getting another person to do something you want to do,
saying no to an unwanted or unreasonable request, getting your opinion or point of view
taken seriously
Objectives effectiveness: Getting what you want from another person questions -
answer-What specific results or changes do I want from this interaction?
- What do I have to do to get the results? what will work?
Relationship effectiveness: keeping and improving the relationship - answerActing in
such a way that the other person keeps liking and respecting you,
balancing immediate goals with the good of the long-term relationship,
maintaining relationships that matter to you
Relationship Effectiveness: keeping and improving the relationship questions - answer-
how do I want the other person to feel about me after the interaction is over (whether or
not I get the results or changes I want?)
-what do I have to do to get (or keep) this relationship?
Self-respect effectiveness: keeping or improving self-respect - answerrespecting your
own values and beliefs,
acting in a way that makes you feel moral,
acting in a way that makes you feel capable and effective
Self-respect effectiveness: keeping or improving self-respect questions - answer-How
do I want to feel about myself after the interaction is over (whether or not I get the
results or changes I want)?
-What do I have to do to feel that way about myself? what will work?
Guidelines for objective effectiveness: getting what you want (DEAR MAN) - answerD-
describe
E-express
A-assert
