, •
Why study relationships ?
central aspect of people's lives i
-
① we spend 70% of our time with other people .
② our culture promotes relationships
③ we are evaluated socially by our relationships
"
what is it that makes your life
Klinger meaningful ?
"
4977) :
°
↳ relationships are beneficial well
being of mental
physical
-
,
↳
neg experience
.
health and
longevity .
-
social support
•
Close relationship : people that impact each other and are interdependent .
( Kelly et al 1983)
.
•
Why do we need relationships ?
① the need to pervasive drive to form and maintain atleast
belong : a
a minimum quantity of lasting , positive ,
and
significant interpersonal relationships .
② need to have frequent and pleasant interactions .
③ need to be stable and show concern for one's welfare
, enduring .
What does a
relationship provide ?
°
① Attachment i -
need for intimacy
I share
express feelings
-
-
absence → emotionallonliness
② Social integration :
-
share worries and concerns
source of
companionship
-
absence → socialistic
-
③ Nurture : -
feel needed (taking care of too rj )
motivation for staying committed to goals
-
④ Reassurance of worth i individual 's competence -
-
absence as
lowselfesteem
⑤ Sense of reliable alliance i -
expect continued assistance
absence →
vulnerability
-
⑥ Guidance i emotional absence →insecurity
support ,
-
, •
Influences on Relationship Development : Low
Intimacy Avoidance
① Culture b rates of
.gg?noIigdemYaYPnnentanfi:w+y/-tahioxhiety
:
marriage
-
-
Prates of age at
marriage cohabitation Preoccupied
unwed parents , divorce , dual earner families
, ,
secure
.
anxious ambivalent
-
oionangeissgcai
sources
-
individualism Dismissing fearful
avoidant
-
technology avoidant
② Experience : -
Attachment theory
attachment any form of behavior that results High Intimacy Avoidance
• -
.
in person attaining or retaining proximity
a
to some other
differentiated and preferred
.
Individual differences :
individual cstrongerlwiser)
① Individual experience -
. influence mother and child have on
eachother that creates the attachment
-
Attachment behavior is
adaptive
↳ babies need caregivers to survive ② Genetic : infant temperament
-
balance between exploration and proximity seeking .
③ Cultural influence -
.
-
US .
-
secure
Western Europe :P Avoidant
Attachment theory
-
Affect regulation
•
:
-
Israel &
Japan :P Anxious
① Secure :
acknowledge distress → turn to others for comfort .
( parenting available ③ Individual differences :
responsive)
-
.
,
warm
,
sex differences
-
② Avoidant ( fearful) : don't acknowledge distress → dont
seek support .
-
Gender differences
(
Parenting rejecting rigid , hostile)
-
personality openness , Conscientiousness , Extroversion ,
. -
-
, .
③ Anxious ambivalent ( preoccupied) hypersensitive →
Agreeableness Neuroticism
-
- . .
,
heightened distress Langer)
self esteem : seek those with similar self concept
.
- .
-
( Parenting -
.
insensitive , inconsistent
④ ④ Interaction systems theory interactions within and
-
Disorganized
-
disorientated : avoidant
.
-
+ anxious '
between systems
.
Why study relationships ?
central aspect of people's lives i
-
① we spend 70% of our time with other people .
② our culture promotes relationships
③ we are evaluated socially by our relationships
"
what is it that makes your life
Klinger meaningful ?
"
4977) :
°
↳ relationships are beneficial well
being of mental
physical
-
,
↳
neg experience
.
health and
longevity .
-
social support
•
Close relationship : people that impact each other and are interdependent .
( Kelly et al 1983)
.
•
Why do we need relationships ?
① the need to pervasive drive to form and maintain atleast
belong : a
a minimum quantity of lasting , positive ,
and
significant interpersonal relationships .
② need to have frequent and pleasant interactions .
③ need to be stable and show concern for one's welfare
, enduring .
What does a
relationship provide ?
°
① Attachment i -
need for intimacy
I share
express feelings
-
-
absence → emotionallonliness
② Social integration :
-
share worries and concerns
source of
companionship
-
absence → socialistic
-
③ Nurture : -
feel needed (taking care of too rj )
motivation for staying committed to goals
-
④ Reassurance of worth i individual 's competence -
-
absence as
lowselfesteem
⑤ Sense of reliable alliance i -
expect continued assistance
absence →
vulnerability
-
⑥ Guidance i emotional absence →insecurity
support ,
-
, •
Influences on Relationship Development : Low
Intimacy Avoidance
① Culture b rates of
.gg?noIigdemYaYPnnentanfi:w+y/-tahioxhiety
:
marriage
-
-
Prates of age at
marriage cohabitation Preoccupied
unwed parents , divorce , dual earner families
, ,
secure
.
anxious ambivalent
-
oionangeissgcai
sources
-
individualism Dismissing fearful
avoidant
-
technology avoidant
② Experience : -
Attachment theory
attachment any form of behavior that results High Intimacy Avoidance
• -
.
in person attaining or retaining proximity
a
to some other
differentiated and preferred
.
Individual differences :
individual cstrongerlwiser)
① Individual experience -
. influence mother and child have on
eachother that creates the attachment
-
Attachment behavior is
adaptive
↳ babies need caregivers to survive ② Genetic : infant temperament
-
balance between exploration and proximity seeking .
③ Cultural influence -
.
-
US .
-
secure
Western Europe :P Avoidant
Attachment theory
-
Affect regulation
•
:
-
Israel &
Japan :P Anxious
① Secure :
acknowledge distress → turn to others for comfort .
( parenting available ③ Individual differences :
responsive)
-
.
,
warm
,
sex differences
-
② Avoidant ( fearful) : don't acknowledge distress → dont
seek support .
-
Gender differences
(
Parenting rejecting rigid , hostile)
-
personality openness , Conscientiousness , Extroversion ,
. -
-
, .
③ Anxious ambivalent ( preoccupied) hypersensitive →
Agreeableness Neuroticism
-
- . .
,
heightened distress Langer)
self esteem : seek those with similar self concept
.
- .
-
( Parenting -
.
insensitive , inconsistent
④ ④ Interaction systems theory interactions within and
-
Disorganized
-
disorientated : avoidant
.
-
+ anxious '
between systems
.
