Recovery Coaching|Questions With Correct
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Reflections on yourself in Coaching - ✅❖ What do I bring to coaching?
❖ My experience, learnings, competences and passions.
❖ Where am I? What do I think? How do I perceive the world? What am I listening for?
❖ What do I do? What do I put in to coaching?
❖ What are my natural gifts?
❖ What lines of competency have I developed? Still need to develop? How do they
impact on my
coaching? i.e. one may have intellectual competence, but emotional is less strong.
❖ What thinking underpins my coaching?
❖ What language do I use?
❖ What is my own moral compass?
❖ What is important for me?
❖ What values, awareness do I bring to coaching?
❖ What motivates my coaching? What is my intention?
❖ What lenses do I look through?
Don't forget WAIT and WAIL! - ✅WAIT | Why Am I Talking?
WAIL | Why Am I Listening?
An essential tool in coaching is to pay more attention to the process the client goes
through, than to the content of what they say.
❖ Listening is giving the client space for them to discover the resources within
themselves.
❖ Coaching is not thinking for the client.
❖ There is nothing more important than the person sitting in front of you.
❖ Give them your full attention.
You are always welcome to use other tools that you may have developed.
If you would like to make these tools available to your clients online, Google Forms is an
excellent way to collect and collate data.
There are plenty of "Readiness for Change" tools that can be used to intiate a change
or transformation process with clients.
MINDSIGHT & CONSCIOUS AWARENESS - ✅What's Mindsight?
"Mindfulness is a form of mental activity that trains the mind to become aware of
awareness itself and to pay attention to one's own intention."
,"Mindsight" is a term coined by Dr. Dan Siegel to describe our human capacity to
perceive the mind of the self and others. It is a powerful lens through which we can
understand our inner lives with more clarity, integrate the brain, and enhance our
relationships with others.
Mindsight is a kind of focused attention that allows us to see the internal workings of our
own minds. It helps us get ourselves off from the autopilot of ingrained behaviours and
habitual responses. It lets us "name and tame" the emotions we are experiencing,
rather than being overwhelmed by them."
"I am sad" vs. "I feel sad"
"Mindsight is the difference between saying, "I am sad" and "I feel sad." As similar as
these two statements may seem, they are profoundly different. "I am sad" is a kind of
limited selfdefinition. "I feel sad" suggests the ability to recognize and acknowledge a
feeling, without being consumed by it. The focusing skills that are part of mindsight
make it possible to see what is inside, to accept it, and in the accepting to let it go, and
finally, to transform it."
"Mindsight is a learnable skill. It is the basic skill that underlies what we mean when we
speak of having emotional and social intelligence. When we develop the skill of
mindsight, we actually change the physical structure of the brain. This revelation is
based on one of the most exciting scientific discoveries of the last twenty years: How we
focus our attention shapes the structure of the brain. Neuroscience has also definitively
shown that we can grow these new connections throughout our lives, not just in
childhood."
[http://www.drdansiegel.com/about/mindsight/]
❖ Mindfulness can be seen as the fo
1.. Golden rule - ✅1. Check-in with self.
turn up authentically, warts and all. Sit with the wounds, notice and watch the
discomfort, don't itch.
2. Core is turning Guilt (on way down and in addiction, to Shame (recovery starts only
when move guilt so shame can be felt, to Wellbeing and living out of shame (being able
to sit with 4 emotions -fear, sad, anger, Joy).
3. When my want for you is greater than your want for you....that's EGO.
4. Recovery is underrated by Spirituality. Connection to a higher power, universal
consciousness.
5. Caring (support) without an agenda, is
REMEMBER there are three levels of listening - ✅LEVEL 1 | ME | My personal ideas,
thoughts, experiences, etc. are interfering with the coaching conversation.
, LEVEL 2 | YOU | I am listening intently to the client and allowing his/her agenda to lead
the coaching conversation.
LEVEL 3 | US | I am listening for unsaid cues, emotions, vibes, body language, etc. in
the coaching conversation and listening at a deeper level for unsaid communication.
Self-management and personal awareness are important aspects of listening ... as is
silence!
1.2. Principles of coaching. Inner Game - ✅-Level 3 listening. RESIST
INTERRUPTING, ADVISING, DIRECTING, ADVOCATING, TELLING. (DRIAAT)
- Unconscious incompetence, to conscious incompetence, to conscious competence, to
unconscious competence.
- Shame is the driver of addictions. Be always mindful not to create shame in the client.
- Coaches support clients to achieve their goals from behind them.
- Process. Co-creative, collaborative, conversations.
- How to make use of all the wisdom (coaching, self help, CBT/DBT Medical). coaches
can bring it all together.
- Co-depenant to inter-dependant on (sweet spot, adult-adult) to independent.
- Chaos/death/discussion to health & wellbeing.
- maintain the container. check-in about SHAME/GUILT, anger, fear, sadness, JOY.
- Mindsight, polyvagal. mapping and tracking of legal nerve. first responder. under
gunpoint. Being able to stand back from this autonomic trigger...
https://youtu.be/br8-qebjIgs
As Coaches we listen for: - ✅⮚ Relevant content - the "facts"
⮚ That which is not said, but deserves attention
❖ Values
❖ Emotions
❖ Energy levels, personality
❖ The lens they are looking at the world through
❖ Implicit beliefs beneath what they are saying
❖ Limiting assumptions, which can be followed by questions such as:
o What are you assuming that makes you feel that way?
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Reflections on yourself in Coaching - ✅❖ What do I bring to coaching?
❖ My experience, learnings, competences and passions.
❖ Where am I? What do I think? How do I perceive the world? What am I listening for?
❖ What do I do? What do I put in to coaching?
❖ What are my natural gifts?
❖ What lines of competency have I developed? Still need to develop? How do they
impact on my
coaching? i.e. one may have intellectual competence, but emotional is less strong.
❖ What thinking underpins my coaching?
❖ What language do I use?
❖ What is my own moral compass?
❖ What is important for me?
❖ What values, awareness do I bring to coaching?
❖ What motivates my coaching? What is my intention?
❖ What lenses do I look through?
Don't forget WAIT and WAIL! - ✅WAIT | Why Am I Talking?
WAIL | Why Am I Listening?
An essential tool in coaching is to pay more attention to the process the client goes
through, than to the content of what they say.
❖ Listening is giving the client space for them to discover the resources within
themselves.
❖ Coaching is not thinking for the client.
❖ There is nothing more important than the person sitting in front of you.
❖ Give them your full attention.
You are always welcome to use other tools that you may have developed.
If you would like to make these tools available to your clients online, Google Forms is an
excellent way to collect and collate data.
There are plenty of "Readiness for Change" tools that can be used to intiate a change
or transformation process with clients.
MINDSIGHT & CONSCIOUS AWARENESS - ✅What's Mindsight?
"Mindfulness is a form of mental activity that trains the mind to become aware of
awareness itself and to pay attention to one's own intention."
,"Mindsight" is a term coined by Dr. Dan Siegel to describe our human capacity to
perceive the mind of the self and others. It is a powerful lens through which we can
understand our inner lives with more clarity, integrate the brain, and enhance our
relationships with others.
Mindsight is a kind of focused attention that allows us to see the internal workings of our
own minds. It helps us get ourselves off from the autopilot of ingrained behaviours and
habitual responses. It lets us "name and tame" the emotions we are experiencing,
rather than being overwhelmed by them."
"I am sad" vs. "I feel sad"
"Mindsight is the difference between saying, "I am sad" and "I feel sad." As similar as
these two statements may seem, they are profoundly different. "I am sad" is a kind of
limited selfdefinition. "I feel sad" suggests the ability to recognize and acknowledge a
feeling, without being consumed by it. The focusing skills that are part of mindsight
make it possible to see what is inside, to accept it, and in the accepting to let it go, and
finally, to transform it."
"Mindsight is a learnable skill. It is the basic skill that underlies what we mean when we
speak of having emotional and social intelligence. When we develop the skill of
mindsight, we actually change the physical structure of the brain. This revelation is
based on one of the most exciting scientific discoveries of the last twenty years: How we
focus our attention shapes the structure of the brain. Neuroscience has also definitively
shown that we can grow these new connections throughout our lives, not just in
childhood."
[http://www.drdansiegel.com/about/mindsight/]
❖ Mindfulness can be seen as the fo
1.. Golden rule - ✅1. Check-in with self.
turn up authentically, warts and all. Sit with the wounds, notice and watch the
discomfort, don't itch.
2. Core is turning Guilt (on way down and in addiction, to Shame (recovery starts only
when move guilt so shame can be felt, to Wellbeing and living out of shame (being able
to sit with 4 emotions -fear, sad, anger, Joy).
3. When my want for you is greater than your want for you....that's EGO.
4. Recovery is underrated by Spirituality. Connection to a higher power, universal
consciousness.
5. Caring (support) without an agenda, is
REMEMBER there are three levels of listening - ✅LEVEL 1 | ME | My personal ideas,
thoughts, experiences, etc. are interfering with the coaching conversation.
, LEVEL 2 | YOU | I am listening intently to the client and allowing his/her agenda to lead
the coaching conversation.
LEVEL 3 | US | I am listening for unsaid cues, emotions, vibes, body language, etc. in
the coaching conversation and listening at a deeper level for unsaid communication.
Self-management and personal awareness are important aspects of listening ... as is
silence!
1.2. Principles of coaching. Inner Game - ✅-Level 3 listening. RESIST
INTERRUPTING, ADVISING, DIRECTING, ADVOCATING, TELLING. (DRIAAT)
- Unconscious incompetence, to conscious incompetence, to conscious competence, to
unconscious competence.
- Shame is the driver of addictions. Be always mindful not to create shame in the client.
- Coaches support clients to achieve their goals from behind them.
- Process. Co-creative, collaborative, conversations.
- How to make use of all the wisdom (coaching, self help, CBT/DBT Medical). coaches
can bring it all together.
- Co-depenant to inter-dependant on (sweet spot, adult-adult) to independent.
- Chaos/death/discussion to health & wellbeing.
- maintain the container. check-in about SHAME/GUILT, anger, fear, sadness, JOY.
- Mindsight, polyvagal. mapping and tracking of legal nerve. first responder. under
gunpoint. Being able to stand back from this autonomic trigger...
https://youtu.be/br8-qebjIgs
As Coaches we listen for: - ✅⮚ Relevant content - the "facts"
⮚ That which is not said, but deserves attention
❖ Values
❖ Emotions
❖ Energy levels, personality
❖ The lens they are looking at the world through
❖ Implicit beliefs beneath what they are saying
❖ Limiting assumptions, which can be followed by questions such as:
o What are you assuming that makes you feel that way?
