Marriage and Family- Chapter 11-13
possible reason for unhappy and failing marriages -
✅ lack of preparation given for the marriage
what can you not afford? -
✅ to not prepare for marriage
positive effects of marriage -
✅ healthier lifestyle, longer life, sexually satisfied, more wealth, healthier children
single best predictor of marital success -
✅ age
when it comes to age, what can increase the risk for divorce? -
✅ marrying young, old, or having a major disparity between a couple
positive reasons to marry -
✅ companionship, parenthood, supportive partnership, love and intimacy, sexual partners
bad reasons to marry -
✅ pregnancy, pressure, to be independent, secure, rebellious, or due to rebounding
why do couples have difficulty adjusting to marriage? -
✅ they have an idealist approach instead of a realistic one
what is one way to prepare for marriage? -
✅ effective premarital counseling
when should an engaged couple begin premarital counseling? -
✅ 12 months before the wedding
how long should premarital counseling last? -
✅ 6-8 weeks
what are the types of married couples? -
✅ vitalized, harmonious, traditional, conflicted, devitaized
vitalized married couples -
✅ best type of married couple who are satisfied in all aspects of the relationship with
good communication
characteristics of vitalized couples -
✅ marrying older, more education, married longer, higher status jobs
how many vitalized couples never considered divorce? -
✅ 80%
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, harmonious couples -
✅ 2nd best type of married couple that have moderately high satisfaction, but low
dissatisfaction with their parenting
characteristics of harmonious couples -
✅ younger but with high education and high status jobs
traditional couples -
✅ 3rd best type of married couple who are good parents but tend to dislike their partner
and have bad relational skills with each other
characteristics of traditional couples -
✅ religious with more kids and equality, but less satisfaction as a couple
conflicted couple -
✅ 2nd worst type of married couple that are more equal and religious than traditional
couples, but even worse off in their relationship
characteristics of conflicted couples -
✅ cohabitation, younger, less education, lower status jobs,
devitalized couples -
✅ worst type of married couple who are very unhappy with each other and will more
likely seperate
chance that one or both couples in a devitalized marriage considered divorce -
✅ 88%
parenthood -
✅ process of raising kids from infant to adults that provide family continuity
world's hardest job -
✅ parenthood
top parenting issues for couples -
✅ kids reduced marital satisfaction, dad's not involved enough, discipline disagreements,
child-rearing isn't shared, focus is on kids not marriage
parenting myths -
✅ kids turn out well if they have good parents and parenting gets easier as the kids get
older
what was the result of the modern Wolfe study? -
✅ Besides who decides on the car and vacation, decision-making for couples is the same
as it was 60 years ago
costs for a lower income family to raise a child to age 17 -
✅ about 130,000 which is 30% of their income
costs for middle income family to raise a child to age 17 -
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possible reason for unhappy and failing marriages -
✅ lack of preparation given for the marriage
what can you not afford? -
✅ to not prepare for marriage
positive effects of marriage -
✅ healthier lifestyle, longer life, sexually satisfied, more wealth, healthier children
single best predictor of marital success -
✅ age
when it comes to age, what can increase the risk for divorce? -
✅ marrying young, old, or having a major disparity between a couple
positive reasons to marry -
✅ companionship, parenthood, supportive partnership, love and intimacy, sexual partners
bad reasons to marry -
✅ pregnancy, pressure, to be independent, secure, rebellious, or due to rebounding
why do couples have difficulty adjusting to marriage? -
✅ they have an idealist approach instead of a realistic one
what is one way to prepare for marriage? -
✅ effective premarital counseling
when should an engaged couple begin premarital counseling? -
✅ 12 months before the wedding
how long should premarital counseling last? -
✅ 6-8 weeks
what are the types of married couples? -
✅ vitalized, harmonious, traditional, conflicted, devitaized
vitalized married couples -
✅ best type of married couple who are satisfied in all aspects of the relationship with
good communication
characteristics of vitalized couples -
✅ marrying older, more education, married longer, higher status jobs
how many vitalized couples never considered divorce? -
✅ 80%
1
, harmonious couples -
✅ 2nd best type of married couple that have moderately high satisfaction, but low
dissatisfaction with their parenting
characteristics of harmonious couples -
✅ younger but with high education and high status jobs
traditional couples -
✅ 3rd best type of married couple who are good parents but tend to dislike their partner
and have bad relational skills with each other
characteristics of traditional couples -
✅ religious with more kids and equality, but less satisfaction as a couple
conflicted couple -
✅ 2nd worst type of married couple that are more equal and religious than traditional
couples, but even worse off in their relationship
characteristics of conflicted couples -
✅ cohabitation, younger, less education, lower status jobs,
devitalized couples -
✅ worst type of married couple who are very unhappy with each other and will more
likely seperate
chance that one or both couples in a devitalized marriage considered divorce -
✅ 88%
parenthood -
✅ process of raising kids from infant to adults that provide family continuity
world's hardest job -
✅ parenthood
top parenting issues for couples -
✅ kids reduced marital satisfaction, dad's not involved enough, discipline disagreements,
child-rearing isn't shared, focus is on kids not marriage
parenting myths -
✅ kids turn out well if they have good parents and parenting gets easier as the kids get
older
what was the result of the modern Wolfe study? -
✅ Besides who decides on the car and vacation, decision-making for couples is the same
as it was 60 years ago
costs for a lower income family to raise a child to age 17 -
✅ about 130,000 which is 30% of their income
costs for middle income family to raise a child to age 17 -
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