Ch7 Friendship
3 main themes: affection, communion, companionship
Rich friendship = intimate relationship with respect, trust, responsiveness, capitalization
Social support: emotional, advice, material, physical, invisible
Perceived partner responsiveness: rewarding
Rules of friendship: social/cultural norms
Across life: infancy = solitary play, toddlers = parallel play (3-4yrs start playing together),
childhood = perspective-taking, fair-weather cooperation, middle school = intimate mutual
sharing autonomous interdependence, more complex
Interpersonal needs: es = acceptance, ms = intimacy, hs = sexuality
Adolescence: less time w fam and more time with peers, romantic relationships, peer pressure
Young Adulthood: failure at social connection = loneliness, interact with few but deeper connect
Midlife: dyadic withdrawal (see more of lover), merging friends
Oldage: smaller network but as many close friends, socioemotional selectivity theory (quality
over quantity)
Gender differences: female = more intimacy, get together to get together, emotional sharing,
self disclosure, men = shared activities, companionship, competition
Individual differences: sexual orientation, relational self construals, self-monitoring, need for
intimacy, depression
Dark Triad: narcissism, machiavellianism, psychopathy
Shyness: concerns about evaluations - awkward behavior - negative impression - neg response
not social phobia, is lack of social skills, can be extroverted and shy
Loneliness: discrepancy between social relations we want and social relations we need
UCLA loneliness scales - isolation from others, lack of close connection, too little social
connection in general
2 facets: social isolation, emotional isolation
Feelings: desperation, impatient boredom, self-depreciation, depression
Coping: active solitude, social contact, distractions, sad passivity
3 main themes: affection, communion, companionship
Rich friendship = intimate relationship with respect, trust, responsiveness, capitalization
Social support: emotional, advice, material, physical, invisible
Perceived partner responsiveness: rewarding
Rules of friendship: social/cultural norms
Across life: infancy = solitary play, toddlers = parallel play (3-4yrs start playing together),
childhood = perspective-taking, fair-weather cooperation, middle school = intimate mutual
sharing autonomous interdependence, more complex
Interpersonal needs: es = acceptance, ms = intimacy, hs = sexuality
Adolescence: less time w fam and more time with peers, romantic relationships, peer pressure
Young Adulthood: failure at social connection = loneliness, interact with few but deeper connect
Midlife: dyadic withdrawal (see more of lover), merging friends
Oldage: smaller network but as many close friends, socioemotional selectivity theory (quality
over quantity)
Gender differences: female = more intimacy, get together to get together, emotional sharing,
self disclosure, men = shared activities, companionship, competition
Individual differences: sexual orientation, relational self construals, self-monitoring, need for
intimacy, depression
Dark Triad: narcissism, machiavellianism, psychopathy
Shyness: concerns about evaluations - awkward behavior - negative impression - neg response
not social phobia, is lack of social skills, can be extroverted and shy
Loneliness: discrepancy between social relations we want and social relations we need
UCLA loneliness scales - isolation from others, lack of close connection, too little social
connection in general
2 facets: social isolation, emotional isolation
Feelings: desperation, impatient boredom, self-depreciation, depression
Coping: active solitude, social contact, distractions, sad passivity
