UBC FMST 314 notes

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Why study relationships ?
central aspect of people's lives i
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① we spend 70% of our time with other people .




② our culture promotes relationships
③ we are evaluated socially by our relationships
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what is it that makes your life
Klinger meaningful ?
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↳ relationships are beneficial well
being of mental
physical
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neg experience
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health and
longevity .




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social support
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Close relationship : people that impact each other and are interdependent .




( Kelly et al 1983)
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Why do we need relationships ?
① the need to pervasive drive to form and maintain atleast
belong : a

a minimum quantity of lasting , positive ,
and
significant interpersonal relationships .




② need to have frequent and pleasant interactions .




③ need to be stable and show concern for one's welfare
, enduring .




What does a
relationship provide ?
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① Attachment i -

need for intimacy
I share
express feelings
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absence → emotionallonliness
② Social integration :
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share worries and concerns
source of
companionship
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absence → socialistic
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③ Nurture : -
feel needed (taking care of too rj )

motivation for staying committed to goals
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④ Reassurance of worth i individual 's competence -




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absence as
lowselfesteem
⑤ Sense of reliable alliance i -


expect continued assistance
absence →
vulnerability
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⑥ Guidance i emotional absence →insecurity
support ,
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Influences on Relationship Development : Low
Intimacy Avoidance
① Culture b rates of




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marriage
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Prates of age at
marriage cohabitation Preoccupied
unwed parents , divorce , dual earner families
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anxious ambivalent
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individualism Dismissing fearful
avoidant
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technology avoidant

② Experience : -
Attachment theory
attachment any form of behavior that results High Intimacy Avoidance
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in person attaining or retaining proximity
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to some other
differentiated and preferred
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Individual differences :
individual cstrongerlwiser)
① Individual experience -

. influence mother and child have on

eachother that creates the attachment
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Attachment behavior is
adaptive
↳ babies need caregivers to survive ② Genetic : infant temperament
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balance between exploration and proximity seeking .
③ Cultural influence -

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US .
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secure
Western Europe :P Avoidant
Attachment theory
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Affect regulation
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Israel &
Japan :P Anxious
① Secure :
acknowledge distress → turn to others for comfort .




( parenting available ③ Individual differences :

responsive)
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warm
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sex differences
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② Avoidant ( fearful) : don't acknowledge distress → dont
seek support .
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Gender differences
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Parenting rejecting rigid , hostile)
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personality openness , Conscientiousness , Extroversion ,
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③ Anxious ambivalent ( preoccupied) hypersensitive →
Agreeableness Neuroticism
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heightened distress Langer)
self esteem : seek those with similar self concept
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( Parenting -
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insensitive , inconsistent

④ ④ Interaction systems theory interactions within and
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Disorganized
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disorientated : avoidant
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between systems
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