SPC 3301 EXAM 2 VERIFIED STUDY GUIDE
Active Pattern of Destructive Comm - Answers - -Constantly seeking interaction with
anyone
-Intense talkativeness, never ending questions, intense involvement desire in convos,
more exhibitionist highs and lows
-Makes ppl weary to trust, comes off as desperate or unstable
Altruistic Love - Answers - -A lot of things at once; rare (combo of all 3)
-Value concern, tenderness, support, & caring behaviors
-Fluctuate b/w certain aspects of certain styles for sake of partnership
-Takes on suffering for other's sake (neglect own needs)
Adult Attachment: Anxious/Ambiv (11%) - Answers - -Crave intimacy
-Overly dep/demanding in rels
-Easily fall in love BUT true love is rare
-Emo extremes (↑ conflict/insecurity/rejection sensitivity)
Adult Attachment: Avoidant (25%) - Answers - -Strong sense of self sufficiency, appear
detached
-Value ind, uninterested in close rels
Certain Pattern of Destructive Comm - Answers - -Know it all
-Believe they know everything or that their knowledge is the only important
understanding of a subject
-Turn occasional behavior into personality trait
Companionate Love - Answers - -Friends → lovers trope
-Develop overtime, peaceful & enchanting
-Long absences by a partner aren't distressing
-Disinterested in intensity/frivolity
-Least pre-occupied by partner
-Pros: stable + predictable
-Con: spark fades overtime
Contempt - Answers - -mocking/placing self over other
-How u say it over what u say
-Hostile humor
-Facial expressions/bod lang matter
-Major red flag
Criticism - Answers - Complaining that directly attacks person's character/morals/etc
antidote to contempt - Answers - -foster respect
, -Takes time to regain after trust is lost
-Empathetic approach, neutral and equal
antidote to criticism - Answers - Can be healthy if black and white, provides solution,
problem focused, not "you" leading or related to consistency (never/always)
Tie sign - Answers - pub display that demonstrates rel's existence
stonewalling - Answers - -Easily habitual
-Emo unavailability
-High energy (storm out) or low (ignore/disengage)
antidote to stonewalling - Answers - Psych self soothing
-Comm w partner if not able to engage yet
-Take a walk, read book, etc
-Revisit when ready
-Possibly end rel
Ought to commitment - Answers - based on sense of moral obligation to stay
Passive Pattern of Destructive Commitment - Answers - -Withdrawn, uninvolved, and
introverted
-Respond w silence, pseudo-agreement (ya sure), indifference, lack of involvement (do
what u want, IDC), using sullenness/withdraw to test rel commitment
-Similar to stonewall, yet on-going
Realistic Love - Answers - -Playful love + companionate love
-Compatibility is examined & sought on basis of practicality
-Logic over values minimize role of feelings in important decisions
-Careful planning w/ courtship + separation
-Challenges: changing life goals; need for excitement (mid-life crisis)
Playful Love - Answers - -Love is a game
-Believe love is less important than other life features
-Low inclusion needs
-Prefer variety over pos experiences
-Often have multiple partners at a time
-Works when both partners are undemanding & self sufficient
-Problematic if there are discrepancies in commitment desire
Love of Beauty - Answers - -Attraction to phys beauty (main feature)
-Passionate/intense, eager for sex & disclosure
-Typically immediate attraction
-May fizzle out
-Successful if couple finds other highs that are less intense
Active Pattern of Destructive Comm - Answers - -Constantly seeking interaction with
anyone
-Intense talkativeness, never ending questions, intense involvement desire in convos,
more exhibitionist highs and lows
-Makes ppl weary to trust, comes off as desperate or unstable
Altruistic Love - Answers - -A lot of things at once; rare (combo of all 3)
-Value concern, tenderness, support, & caring behaviors
-Fluctuate b/w certain aspects of certain styles for sake of partnership
-Takes on suffering for other's sake (neglect own needs)
Adult Attachment: Anxious/Ambiv (11%) - Answers - -Crave intimacy
-Overly dep/demanding in rels
-Easily fall in love BUT true love is rare
-Emo extremes (↑ conflict/insecurity/rejection sensitivity)
Adult Attachment: Avoidant (25%) - Answers - -Strong sense of self sufficiency, appear
detached
-Value ind, uninterested in close rels
Certain Pattern of Destructive Comm - Answers - -Know it all
-Believe they know everything or that their knowledge is the only important
understanding of a subject
-Turn occasional behavior into personality trait
Companionate Love - Answers - -Friends → lovers trope
-Develop overtime, peaceful & enchanting
-Long absences by a partner aren't distressing
-Disinterested in intensity/frivolity
-Least pre-occupied by partner
-Pros: stable + predictable
-Con: spark fades overtime
Contempt - Answers - -mocking/placing self over other
-How u say it over what u say
-Hostile humor
-Facial expressions/bod lang matter
-Major red flag
Criticism - Answers - Complaining that directly attacks person's character/morals/etc
antidote to contempt - Answers - -foster respect
, -Takes time to regain after trust is lost
-Empathetic approach, neutral and equal
antidote to criticism - Answers - Can be healthy if black and white, provides solution,
problem focused, not "you" leading or related to consistency (never/always)
Tie sign - Answers - pub display that demonstrates rel's existence
stonewalling - Answers - -Easily habitual
-Emo unavailability
-High energy (storm out) or low (ignore/disengage)
antidote to stonewalling - Answers - Psych self soothing
-Comm w partner if not able to engage yet
-Take a walk, read book, etc
-Revisit when ready
-Possibly end rel
Ought to commitment - Answers - based on sense of moral obligation to stay
Passive Pattern of Destructive Commitment - Answers - -Withdrawn, uninvolved, and
introverted
-Respond w silence, pseudo-agreement (ya sure), indifference, lack of involvement (do
what u want, IDC), using sullenness/withdraw to test rel commitment
-Similar to stonewall, yet on-going
Realistic Love - Answers - -Playful love + companionate love
-Compatibility is examined & sought on basis of practicality
-Logic over values minimize role of feelings in important decisions
-Careful planning w/ courtship + separation
-Challenges: changing life goals; need for excitement (mid-life crisis)
Playful Love - Answers - -Love is a game
-Believe love is less important than other life features
-Low inclusion needs
-Prefer variety over pos experiences
-Often have multiple partners at a time
-Works when both partners are undemanding & self sufficient
-Problematic if there are discrepancies in commitment desire
Love of Beauty - Answers - -Attraction to phys beauty (main feature)
-Passionate/intense, eager for sex & disclosure
-Typically immediate attraction
-May fizzle out
-Successful if couple finds other highs that are less intense
